A friend said it best, “Life is like a dance, sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow, sometimes you step on toes and sometimes you just move with the rhythm.”  I think it’s a good way to look at our experiences and lessons.  I look forward to the days I dance with ease but right now I’m still learning the dance and stumble a lot. 

One of my favorite authors is Iyanla Vanzant who has written several books, but one I refer to daily is “Until Today.”  She has lessons and things to think about for every day of the year.  Today’s message was all about forgiveness and for believing that I have the power to create victims.  Here’s a brief look at what the message is:

“We have all done something that has caused someone pain or discomfort.  Often, we are aware of the consequences or our actions. Then there are those times when we don’t have a clue about what we’ve done until someone brings it to our attention.  When they do, we feel bad.  We believe that we must forever be indebted to the people who have been the victims of our thoughtlessness, neglect or abuse.”

Vanzant goes on to say that we can not see people as victims of something we have done or they will allow us to continue to feel bad.  She writes “If you see people as your victims then you are declaring yourself to be more powerful than you have a right to be in anyone’s life. Seeing someone as your victim says that you are somehow responsible for what people believe and do.  Thinking this way or feeling this way is going to cause you a tremendous amount of unnecessary grief.”

She talks about the dance of life and refers to the fact that some of us are accomplished dancers and some can’t find the beat.  “If you step on toes, ask for forgiveness.  DON’T BUY THEM A NEW PAIR OF SHOES!  If the experience leaves them with the impression that life is not worth dancing, ask for forgiveness.  DO NOT SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TRYING TO FORCE THEM TO DANCE AGAIN!  You have no victims!  Ask for forgiveness.  Make amends if you can.  Then, waltz away.”

Today I’m devoted to forgiving my errors and to acknowledging that there are no victims in my life!


TODAY I’M ATTRACTING peace with those who dance to a different beat than me.

QUOTE:  “I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life dose go on and it will be better tomorrow.”  Maya Angelou

ARBONNE:  means, “Good from the Earth”

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